Most people don’t have a working definition of a sociopath, though they’ve undoubtedly interacted with one at some point during their life.  Sociopaths will tell whatever story they need to in order to achieve their end.  They don’t experience a full range of human emotion.  They see themselves as belonging to a higher order.  Everything is a means unto an end.

In the mid-19th century, German philosopher Rudolf Lotze borrowed some Greek for something like the word “passion” to create the word empathy.  20th century science-fiction writers gave us empaths: beings of an extraordinary ability to not just sympathize, but empathize with the feelings of others around them.  Empaths are the natural opposites of sociopaths.

Is this true?

An empath may tell himself that his preoccupation with the feelings of others is both healthy and innate (though perhaps not always in that order).  Worrying what other people are thinking is just what an empath does.  How else is an empath to go about relating to the feelings of those around him?  To withdraw inwardly is to be selfish.  An inwardly focused empath is an empath that no longer cares to engage the world around, no longer wishes to use his gifts to empower others, and just generally doesn’t want to be an empath any more.

Sociopaths are equally self-absorbed.  A sociopath is constantly preoccupied with the feelings of others; feelings are the best way to gauge a person’s mood and inclinations.  Sociopaths worry all the time what other people are thinking because they have to know how and where to cover their tracks.  The sociopath may not experience true emotion, but he certainly has to have a sense of what it’s like to lose a pet, a job, or even a spouse, or otherwise he’ll be totally without the ability to choose an appropriate response in such situations.  Sociopaths can’t afford to draw totally inward, as they’d risk missing the critical cues they need to pretend they’re actually caring, socially aware, and ego-less.

 

At a moment when I thought I was at my most insecure, I was accused of being arrogant.  At the time, I quickly snapped that I was without self worth.  But was that true?